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I was born in Britain to Jamaican parents. I'm a mum to my gorgeous son and a fashion and soft furnishings designer. I'm fun loving, totally in love and inspired by my Creator (not religious!!)optimistic and free!!

Info On My Locs

  • Installation Date: 24, 25 & 26 July 08
  • Interlock clock pattern 9,6,9,12
  • Trainee Consultant: Sabrina Williams@aol.com
  • How Many Hours: 26
  • How Many Days: 3
  • Lock Pattern: 3
  • My Hair Curl Type: Loose and Deep (S-Curl)
  • How Many: 447 (finally took the time out to count them!!)
  • Sisterlock end date: September 2009
  • Traditional Loc Installation Date: March 2010
  • Interlock Pattern: Palm Roll / Coil Twist
  • Consultant: Ezme
  • How Many Hours: 4-6hrs
  • How Many Days:1
  • How Many Locs: 184

Saturday 6 June 2009

Are you trying to make me say Sorry!!!


Lately i have been hit by a load of questions and things have been popping up in my face all to do with the complexion of skin!!!


On FB ( facebook) 2 questions (insults) came flying in my direction.



  1. Men are more attracted to light skin woman..... and


  2. Light skin women think that they are nice and have big egos

I'm sorry but what the f**k is going on!!!


I remember this foolishness being around when i was a teen but i never thought these notions still existed. I totally understand the history of the 'light skin woman', but i can tell you now that i'm not favored ( well not in this country) over jobs, men or the bank manager because of the lightness of my skin.


I remember as a child my dad being ashamed of my complexion ( he is a very dark skinned man who came from a very light skinned woman!!) Whenever the sun came out he wanted me naked, beached whaled, lapping up the rays. My mum who is light skinned has got the most gorgeous broad nose eva and so would be excepted as black but with my straight nose bridge i didn't get off as lightly!! The lightness of my skin was not something that i really noticed untill others pointed it out to me. I was raised to believe that i was a black woman. ' Girl' my mum used to say "Your gonna have to work twice as hard in this life cos your black and a woman' she never once said ' Girl your light skin.. men will fall at your feet, jobs will come easy in fact just sit back, it will all come to you!!'



Why do i feel that i need to apologise for being a redder tone??


Why do i feel so angry when this s**t is brought up??


I still face rascism and rejection like everyone else. I even face confusion..


'Is she mixed?',


'Who's white your mum your your dad??'


'You know what girl for years i thought you were mixed race!!',


'Why are you locing up your hair i bet its pretty!!',


'Oh! i didn't know you had a son! Does he have green eyes??'


I repeat........... What the f**k!!!


The distressing part is that these questions or blatant displays of ignorance comes from my own black women


Talking to a lot of my friends who have a darker comlexion, ( i only have one friend who shares the same complexion as me and these same issues) they seem to have lifes where the colour is not an issue which amazes me eveytime i hear it. I know you may find this hard to believe but they have never been called a rasist name!!! I know i know baffling cos i have!!. There complexion has never been an issue, they have alot of acceptance and don't move in the circles where ignorance and bigotry is prolific. I suppose when your light skinned caucasions may feel that you are a part of them in some why and as a child can get close enough to insult...... i don't know i'm just pulling ideas out of the air!!


Listen up..... I am sure that in every race there are women and men who have big egos. Personally i do believe that the first person anyone needs to love is themselves.......or is that a LSW (light skinned woman) thing lol!!!


My granny used to say that 'there is a plaster for every sore' so im sure there are men out there who love woman from any and every race not just us LSW.


Well i for one is fed up with facing these prejudice comments from my own peeps


For those who have this negative and damaging thought process.... It' s time to fix up!!


I'm done with apologising!!!

Tuesday 2 June 2009

Today Kreative Blogger Award, Tomorrow an Acadamy Award ..... maybe!!!!



My girl Euphoria has nominated me for a kreativ blogger award. I'm honoured and flattered but i really don't know why as i have been toooo busy with life and have been neglecting my blogging duties.
Anyho i have to nominate 7 peeps and list 7 things that i love so here goes
.

1. Has to be my boy Nay Nays. He simply is my everything. xXxXx

2. My fiance. He gets on my last nerve all the bloody time, He makes me laugh when i'm really p****ed off and attempts to calm me down when the temper is suffocating me. Love ya babe xXx

3. Friends and family. I simply adore them. Growing as an only child you quickly learn to appreciate all of those who look out for you!! xXx



4. Fashion. I'm not a follower of fashion and never have been but it is my trade, i have a talent for it. The more outrageous the better.



5. Spirituality. I have a gift and am intent of developing it. Nuff said!

6. Music. If i hadn't had Nay Nays this one would be at the top spot. It soothes my soul, awakens my spirit and cools my temper.

and finally


7. Life. I just reached 30 and have had time to reflect on my past and ponder on my future. I am learning to love this life that i have chosen to live and know that everyday i am faced with challenges that i can conquer, love that i can hold and secret blessings in abundance.
Thank You Jah xXx



DRUM ROLL PLEASE



THE 7 NOMINATIONS ARE


Just Alayio
Euphoria
Nihuru
Chosen Vessel
Angel Locs
Chelle
and finally.....yes you've guessed it...it's
....Naturally Sophia