Teach an Ol' Dog New Tricks ..(well not that old)

New Pics

2011-05-05T09:24:00.000-07:00

I've just dyed my hair red and thought i'd put a few pics of the colour and hairstyle that i've been rocking today. For all those who are/were regular visitors to my site would know that i live for colour!!! There was no braiding and banding this time round just me slapping it in.

I started with the ends first and worked my way up to the roots for logical purposes!! Colour was left in the ends for 40-50 mins and the roots no longer than 30mins.

Check out the results

Girl where the hell have u been???

2011-04-27T04:49:00.000-07:00

Well, well, well what can i say ladies Ezme has returned from the wilderness looking completely different from the last time u set eyes on her!!!!

But what caused the absence in the first place i hear u cry Weeeeeeeeelllllllllll!!!

I am now a single mum after having quite a traumatic break from my childs father but at the same time good riddance to bull shit!!!!

I had to sort my head heart and emotions out which has taken me 2 years (obviously) When i heal i like to make sure that the process is fully complete before i can continue on, I never thought it would take as long as it did but the plaster is off and i am fighting fit again!!!!

I've had to overcome personal illness and family death!

Nays is getting so big and demanding that i had to spend more time with him and with the break up of his parents he just needed that constant reassurance which meant two fingers up to my PC :0(

And with all the stress of everything i cut off my locs (boooooooo........ hisssssssss

I kno, i kno naughty Ezme bt there back now (HURRRAAAYYYY!!)

Minus the 'sister' part (mmmmmmmmmm)

I first cut the side off and was rocking that look for awhile (Rhianna) which i thought looked cute but my mind was in such a bad place at the time that i reached for my scissors and hacked of the lot and did i regret it...............

HELL YEAH!!

When i saw my little baby locs starring up at me from the floor i really thought ' Gurl thats it!! u really have lost all reason, thought and notions from your skull...FOOL!!I think alot of the act was me stripping myself from my ex...he paid for my SL's, took out all the fluff , stroked it and commented on them nearly everyday ( not always nice comments mind u!!!) and it was my way of getting the monkey of my back. However all this did happen in 2009 and as soon as my hair was long enough to grip.....no where near 6inch more like 1in, my own hands were in there shaping my destiny..... shaping my locs!!!!!!!!!!!

Do i miss my SL's????

Funnily enough not really. Maybe thats a bit of a white lie.!!! Maybe thats hindsight talking!!! I do miss those neat partings and the millions of locs........... I dont miss the sore bum, arms and scalp from sitting getting them redone, the pain my purse felt everytime i had to open it to hand over the cash or the thinest of them ( is thinest a word...i duno bt im sure u kno what i mean... they were tooooo fine).

So what did i do to get my locs back????? Good ol fashioned coil strands all by myself (oh i already mentioned that part) but i stuck to the traditions of SLs ie spritz with water everyday (Now i add a liitle olive oil to the mix)no creams potions or lotions and the ever needed de-fluff

My new set of Locs were started in March 2010 and nothing really happened until the end of the year and now they have gone through the budding stage (kinda), a few at the front still havent taken and can be combed out (might have to think of latching them few!!!) but all in all i feel okay with these new locs on my head. There bigger i haven't counted them but i think there maybe 130 or so, and family and friends seems to prefer this new ste on my head as opposed to the SL's (interesting!!!) BTW all pics above are of me with my new set of locs...NOT SL'S!!

Are you trying to make me say Sorry!!!

2009-06-06T00:36:00.000-07:00

Lately i have been hit by a load of questions and things have been popping up in my face all to do with the complexion of skin!!!

On FB ( facebook) 2 questions (insults) came flying in my direction.

Men are more attracted to light skin woman..... and

Light skin women think that they are nice and have big egos

I'm sorry but what the f**k is going on!!!

I remember this foolishness being around when i was a teen but i never thought these notions still existed. I totally understand the history of the 'light skin woman', but i can tell you now that i'm not favored ( well not in this country) over jobs, men or the bank manager because of the lightness of my skin.

I remember as a child my dad being ashamed of my complexion ( he is a very dark skinned man who came from a very light skinned woman!!) Whenever the sun came out he wanted me naked, beached whaled, lapping up the rays. My mum who is light skinned has got the most gorgeous broad nose eva and so would be excepted as black but with my straight nose bridge i didn't get off as lightly!! The lightness of my skin was not something that i really noticed untill others pointed it out to me. I was raised to believe that i was a black woman. ' Girl' my mum used to say "Your gonna have to work twice as hard in this life cos your black and a woman' she never once said ' Girl your light skin.. men will fall at your feet, jobs will come easy in fact just sit back, it will all come to you!!'

Why do i feel that i need to apologise for being a redder tone??

Why do i feel so angry when this s**t is brought up??

I still face rascism and rejection like everyone else. I even face confusion..

'Is she mixed?',

'Who's white your mum your your dad??'

'You know what girl for years i thought you were mixed race!!',

'Why are you locing up your hair i bet its pretty!!',

'Oh! i didn't know you had a son! Does he have green eyes??'

I repeat........... What the f**k!!!

The distressing part is that these questions or blatant displays of ignorance comes from my own black women

Talking to a lot of my friends who have a darker comlexion, ( i only have one friend who shares the same complexion as me and these same issues) they seem to have lifes where the colour is not an issue which amazes me eveytime i hear it. I know you may find this hard to believe but they have never been called a rasist name!!! I know i know baffling cos i have!!. There complexion has never been an issue, they have alot of acceptance and don't move in the circles where ignorance and bigotry is prolific. I suppose when your light skinned caucasions may feel that you are a part of them in some why and as a child can get close enough to insult...... i don't know i'm just pulling ideas out of the air!!

Listen up..... I am sure that in every race there are women and men who have big egos. Personally i do believe that the first person anyone needs to love is themselves.......or is that a LSW (light skinned woman) thing lol!!!

My granny used to say that 'there is a plaster for every sore' so im sure there are men out there who love woman from any and every race not just us LSW.

Well i for one is fed up with facing these prejudice comments from my own peeps

For those who have this negative and damaging thought process.... It' s time to fix up!!

I'm done with apologising!!!

Today Kreative Blogger Award, Tomorrow an Acadamy Award ..... maybe!!!!

2009-06-02T05:02:00.000-07:00

My girl Euphoria has nominated me for a kreativ blogger award. I'm honoured and flattered but i really don't know why as i have been toooo busy with life and have been neglecting my blogging duties.
Anyho i have to nominate 7 peeps and list 7 things that i love so here goes.

1. Has to be my boy Nay Nays. He simply is my everything. xXxXx

2. My fiance. He gets on my last nerve all the bloody time, He makes me laugh when i'm really p****ed off and attempts to calm me down when the temper is suffocating me. Love ya babe xXx

3. Friends and family. I simply adore them. Growing as an only child you quickly learn to appreciate all of those who look out for you!! xXx

4. Fashion. I'm not a follower of fashion and never have been but it is my trade, i have a talent for it. The more outrageous the better.

5. Spirituality. I have a gift and am intent of developing it. Nuff said!

6. Music. If i hadn't had Nay Nays this one would be at the top spot. It soothes my soul, awakens my spirit and cools my temper.

and finally

7. Life. I just reached 30 and have had time to reflect on my past and ponder on my future. I am learning to love this life that i have chosen to live and know that everyday i am faced with challenges that i can conquer, love that i can hold and secret blessings in abundance.

Thank You Jah xXx

DRUM ROLL PLEASE

THE 7 NOMINATIONS ARE

Just Alayio

Euphoria

Nihuru

Chosen Vessel

Angel Locs

Chelle

and finally.....yes you've guessed it...it's

....Naturally Sophia

Products that i am trying

2009-04-03T08:50:00.000-07:00

I am sure that u all know by now that i am a resident of the UK, and unfortunately for us over here the quanity of hair products that help with any types of locs or any type of hair for that matter is extremely limited. I have looked at countless blog pages and read great reviews on products that we simply don't have to hand in good ol' blighty!! Do i want to wait 14 - 28 days for certain products to be delivered to me via the internet from the great US of A. Nope. So what i have decided is to try to use as many products available at any one time. Right now that is Jamaica Mango and Lime. The products i have bought so far are : Tingle Shampoo, Protein Conditioner, Lock and Set Styling Lotion and Island Oil. This is not a review as i have not tried out any of the producs yet but i have been told by a few that the shampoo is great. It has a great aroma, it does tingle the scalp so gives the impression that it is doing more than it should, the scalp and hair feels clean afterwards.

I have also decided to purchase 2 packs of perm rollers (each packet containing 12 rods at 2.99) and try a little corkscrew effect. At least this way i will be able to try out all the products at one time !! I won't leave it so long for the pics this time (promise!!.... or am i just comforting a fool!!)

Pics from my 30th Birthday Party

2009-04-02T00:56:00.000-07:00

I wished i had taken some pics of the back of this hair style. I had used my xl sponge rollers and curled by whole head. I then flat twisted only two rows at the sides and joined them together at back of my head making sure the curls above it hung losely covering the knot. I then done a large flat twist at the back moving form the left to the right ( you can just make out the clip holding it up). The whole style from taking out the rollers to the finished product took no less than 10 mins. Oh yeah asnd finally you all can see the colour.

This is my bf of 19 years. She has the most beautiful thick hair, but decided to use straighteners on this occasion

I love this pic, with me and my natural girls and guy!!

2009-02-12T07:51:00.000-08:00

Sorry peeps.
I know its been a while since i blogged but i have been busy, busy, busy with Uni, motherhood etc....etc, plus i have just had it confirmed that i have rheumatism in my fingers on my right hand and it is really painful so with all the drawing, cutting etc with fashion and then using my fingers to type ......... NONO!!
So what is the update with my hair. Firstly my computer was reformatted and so i lost everything, all the pics i had taken of the red head .... SORRY!! Bear with me and i will put up some at some point.
Ok, let me give u a summary of the last 6mths and what i have learnt and what i could have done differently

Avid readers of my blog would know that the word SLIPPAGE was as common with me as using oxygen to breathe. Basically it was bloody awful. Now all seems to be under control. DIY was the answer.

No one to depend on,

i can do the in between upkeep and

saving on that money, money, money

=
yeeeeeeeeeah!!!

So once that was under control i decided to dye my hair RED. What i had to do is:

dye the roots first as they had no colour in them and would take longer to absorb the dye

then take it to the ends

braid and band

rinse

There is no point me lingering on that point cos i know you lot just want the pics LOL

The actual thickening of the locs is causing the most problems. Some of them look like they are loc'd while some of them look like i have just had them installed, some of them i have braided and some of them are half and half, some of the are budding in the middle and some of them are only budding where i have started my D.I.Y journey...... madness........ but i am loving them more now that i am in control

Those of you who are scared of d.i.ying or unsure let me tell ya'll something

TRY IT

I feel that i now know the whole of my head intimately, something i would never have felt if i had continued with Sabs. I know which parts of my head are the problem spots, where it locs quick, where i might have to use a different pattern etc..... Another thing is that my locs are alot thicker when i D.I.Y, where Sabs used to do it it was tight and thin and with me its tight and fat, don't know if that info helps anyone but "there u go!!"
The only bummer is that there are a few that i have accidently loc'd together but at the same time there are some that i could see that Sabs had loc'd tooo thinly and needed to be paired up. Another thing,

Do you know that they are all different sizes and i mean ALL.

I know that they are still in there baby stages but because i have been D.I.Ying i can just tell, and i think that it also has something to do with the fact that the texture of my hair is different in different areas. At the same time i don't mind because i am still lovin the experiance and I GOT LOCS

A New Year and a New Me

2009-01-08T04:25:00.000-08:00

Hope you all had a great festive season, ate too much, got drunk and kept the locs looking fierce!!!

So i decided to start my year with a bottle of dark and lovely hair colour........ Now i'm a red head. It's not a new colour for me but one i haven't visited for a long time. Actually Shan never knew what my natural hair colour was until i started the Sl's and we've known each other for nearly 9 years. Throughout the years a regular question i had from him was "What is your hair colour babe" and no matter how many times i would tell him he found it hard to believe. I guess it's one of those cases where seeing is believing.
I've been
blonde, copper, pink, red, blue, burgandy, purple etc.. but i have to say my favourite colour was baby pink. I suppose as a designer or someone who is creative you have to have a bit of eccentricity in your DNA ( and i have more than a bit, in fact i'm just plain crazy!!).

So i plaited and banded put on the dye left for whatever time it said on the bottle and voila RED HEADISH. I say 'ish' because a did mix the dye with a left over colour that i previously used and because i hate waste and didn't want to revert fully back to that colour i done a mix and so far its been described as a redish, auburn and golden just to name a few. Well whateva colour it is i am so glad that i did it because that regrowth of natural colour has been gettin on my last nerve for the longest time. I tell you when Sabs initially told me that i couldn't colour my hair for at least 6 months i nearly changed my mind about the whole thing ( didn't tell u that before did i!!!) . And i nearly waited the full time as i am just shy of that half a year mark. That just goes to show how much colour means to my life. Trivial to some. Everything to me!
And just to summarise for all of those you have asked about the development of my locs now that i am a D.I.Yer. They are coming along alot better thanks.... yeaaaaah!! I have to retighten the front what sees like every other week. I also do repair work on all of them in between retightening sessions as i have noticed there has been alot of unravelling where Sabs had done her "work" Basically they have all budded at the ends but i noticed that not alot was happening beyond that. Then i noticed that the pattern was not there and these buds were hanging with no where to go so i put the pattern back which took forever and ever and ever but hey if you want something you dedicate and get on with it don't you??

My New Love For Soft Rollers

2008-12-22T02:03:00.000-08:00

Well i finally bought some rollers (soft). They were 1.79 for a pack of 9 xl so i bought 3 packs and i think they are one of the best things i've done. I love the curl they give plus the fact that they last at 3 days. They also highlight the individual strands of locs as opposed to letting it hang freestyle (well in my case anyway). So the first time round i asked my mum to do it for me as i have never worn rollers in my life. Once that effect had worn off i gave it a try but instead of leaving them in over night i only had a couple of hours grace period and i didn't put the rollers as close to the scalp and it gave a really really nice looser hangin curl.. ( i just wish i had taken a couple of pics)

Here are the pics of my mums helping hand.....love ya mum

If i do not post anything for the rest of the year then i do wish all of you a

FANTASTIC START TO 2009

How to DIY

2008-12-12T23:46:00.000-08:00

Okay peeps this is my simple instructions (hopefully) on how to DIY. So im gonna tell you the pattern needed only if your are pattern 3 or 4 (because that's all i know!) and how to make a quick and easy tool.

THE TOOL

All you need are a safety pin, masking tape, scissors (the sectioning clips and snips are for when your ready to get going through those luscious locs)

Firstly unwind the safety pin leaving one side bent

Then close in the loose end and tape around with the masking tape

Lastly cut of the excess and there you are your own TOOL!!!! ( now wasn't that easy)

THE PATTERN

Right i need you to look at a clock in your minds eye. Done that....Good!!! Now focus on the 12, 3 6 and 9 because these are the directions that you will be heading in

PATTERN 3

The structure for pattern 3 is 9, 6, 9, 12 So this is what you do.

Place your loc through the tool
Your gonna take your tool to the position of 3 o'clock and push it through to 9 o'clock
Next take the tool to 12 o'clock and push it down to 6 o'clock
Then we go back to 3 o'clock and push it through to 9
Lastly we go from 6 o'clock up to 12
Repeat until tightened

IMPORTANT INFO

When pushing the tool through make sure you pull it down towards your locs so that way you can ensure that the pattern you put in starts where the last one ended!!! Otherwise you end up with a hole.!!

PATTERN 4

Follow the first to steps of pattern 3
Then you go from 9 0'clock to 3 o'clock
And then lastly from 6 to 12

TIPS

Use the sectioning clips to seperate out what your going to be doing
Ensure that the loc you are attempting to do is clear from any neighbouring hair
Use the snips to free any caught locs or strands of hair (Trust me it will happen)

GET D.I.Ying

The Latest On My Loc Saga

2008-12-09T01:40:00.000-08:00

Soooooo whats new well i have finally started on the retightening...well i started a few days ago and was sooo alarmed at the state of my hair. I'm telling u now ladies that is the very last time i allow myself to rely on someone else to care for my hair.......If you need something doing well its best to do it yourself huh!!! What's the big alarm...Check this out.............

Yes Ladies not one loc but 2 have fallen out of my head or should i say have broken off. Loc 1 was hanging on by a single hair and as for loc 2 i ran my hand through my head and there it was.

I feel the reason is there has been too big of a gap between the tightening sessions so take note!!!! I'm not really as pissed as i thought i would have been. There are still 445 to go so no big deal.......really!!

Any ho i am still retightening but am petrified of the hair line. Everytime i have my hair did within a couple of days the front is gone so there i am sitting done with tool in hand when my phone starts ringing. I'm thinking to myself i should ignore as i got so much to get through....(why are these locs so damn small???) i checkout the caller id and see its a loong distance call so i answer and its my ex from JA. Actually im friends with alot of my exes i know it sounds kinda stupid but we got on once upon a time, anyway think of the karma, he he. Anyway to cut a long story short i am telling him what i am doing and about the hairline, here is part of our convo that really got me thinking..

"Ah so u loc it up now"

"yep, its called Sisterlocks"

"Sistawho?"

"Sisterlocks"

"A wha dat?"

"Errr locs"

"Nah man a money makin ting dat"

"who said anything about money"

"it free?"

"No"

"how much"

"enough"

"Englan tun u fool ee gyal, u nah no locs is free"

so i went on to tell him about the price of installation and retightening and the problem with the hairline the response was something along the lines of

"u a ra@# edyat, u tun bumbac$#t fool a musee mad puss piss u a drink. Plait up de fu#$ing front and na budda wid dem fuc%ery, Do it your damn self, Jah nah gi u two han"

I soon began to realise why he is my ex but also why i was with him in the first place. He was not always the most supportive partner but he always told the truth!!

So that is what i am doing plaiting the front and once it needs retightening i will use the SL or should i say the Ezme method as i have not taken any classes!!!

hopefully because it is plaited it will stay alot longer than before. Fingers crossed !!!

For Better Or Worse

2008-12-01T06:41:00.000-08:00

Ladies thank you all for your advice over the last two posts but l have done some serious thinking and have come to a conclusion. Knowing me this light bulb moment will only last a few days but its how im feelin right now so i'm gonna go with that

So, here is Ezmes masterplan... i'm gonna see Sabs on the 13th but before that i'm going to invest in one of the loc keys that Cammalocks are selling.

Can you see where this is going?????????????

Unlike most of you, for me each retightening has turned into some type of installation and i don't know if you have noticed from the pics of me but i have big eyes...huge in fact and those eyes have been watching the pattern that has been going on in my head.

What can i say ... it aint rocket science is it??

And if i can be on hand to catch the locs before they completely slip out then its a bonus for me. Soooooooooooo after the next retightening im gonna have a try of a bit of DIY hopefully and i do say hopefully sticking to the pattern that has already been started. (If not then there is alot of advice out there on youtube full of sistah doin it for themselves).

Does that mean i no longer have SL's????........

....... with my answer being.............

Do i really care, as long as my locs are healthy, growing and something that i am proud to have invested in!!!

If i can get the hang of this self retightening then its all good and i more than likely will pop back to see Sabs and have a touch up but if i can't get the hang of it then its off to a new consultant. Because come Jan i will be at my six months mark and i really cannot see the results that not only i think i should have but what all this money, travel and effort should have produced!!

She is Lovely

2008-11-26T06:27:00.001-08:00

I just spoke to Marie from Cammalocks and unfortunately she has a long list for everything from consulting to retightening to installation......very busy + in demand = must be DAMN GOOD!!

Anyho what a lovely person to speak to. She simply sends such beautiful and calming sensations down the phone it is unbelievable. Why didn't i just hold on and have her do my hair...and the funny thing is that i was on her waiting list and the day she called me i was already half way through my installation.

All i know is i don't care how long i have to wait (she said something about March) i am gonna try and make this lady become my permanent loctition...for real!!!

Now guys the big question is do i go back to Sabs for the meantime or do i continue to look for someone new. Bearing in mind that i the season of good will is upon us...will there be and availability out there for me. My next session is booked for the 13th.

Maybe i'm gonna have to talk it out with Sabs...bwoy i better carry plenty of cammomile tea with me for that!!

The beginnings of Trainee v Trained

2008-11-21T00:15:00.000-08:00

Hello again...long time no see, type or read!!
So what has been happening with Ezme over the last month and a half. Well i've had another retightening that can u believe it had to be broken up into 2 sesssions because it was taking too long. 9hrs in total and then she booked the next session for 6 weeks time instead of 4, making the front where the slippage is worst have to wait 8 weeks till its done. This whole hair saga is beginning to be the bain of my life. I'm starting to think that i need a second opinion. I don't like to think that i'm doubting my Sabs but f**k it i really am. I'm trying to take that she is still a trainee into consideration and i do have very soft hair, maybe she has given me the wrong pattern or maybe............... I'm just clutching at staws right now but i am sure that the retightening sessions are meant to take less time not to increase by each visit. I wonder if she's doing it like that because she is strapped for cash mmmmmmmmmmm I wonder.
Well maybe i'll have to go back to the original person i wanted to do my locks and that is Marie from Cammalocks. I think what i'm gonna do is book a retightening session or just maybe a consultation with her and see what she has to say about the matter, espeacailly as she has had years of expperiance. Like i said i don't like to doubt my loctician but something cannot be right here. What to you lot out there think??? I would post some pics of my locs but parts of it are starting to look like i'm wearing an afro!!! And i f i can't stand to look at it i don't see why you would!

My Computer is SICK!!!

2008-11-04T07:22:00.000-08:00

Hey there all and how have u been doing??? I'm so sorry that i haven't holla'd at anyone but my computer is sick and is at the computer doctors as we speak...or should that be as i type.
So this is just a quick explanation of my disappearance and i will be back with all of you very soon...fingers crossed!!!
Wishing that you all Stay Blessed and Loc'd!! (mwah mwah)

Back to Uni

2008-10-08T00:22:00.000-07:00

After taking almost 18mths out i am sooooooo happy and relieved to be going back. I met this random woman the other day and she approached me asking why i am not creating anymore. Bear in mind i have never seen this woman before in my life. She told me that i was wasting a talent and i should go back and finish what i was doing. When i questioned her a bit futher she explained that sometimes she had something to say to people for whatever reason and that if she didn't the thought would bug her until it comes out. If you've read my tagg then you know i can relate. Well i told her it was my every intention to go back and complete my degree. I'm not sure what i'm gonna do with my degree all i do understand is this wher my talent lies.

She also mentioned that i would get far on project catwalk........well.... i dont know about that.

My problem is i have always been a perfectionist and therefore never feel that anything that i have completed is good enough, there are always improvements and i am my worst critic. Anyway we will see....I think about it!!

(oh these are some garments that i designed and made a few years back)

Braid OUt!!!!!

2008-10-07T23:41:00.000-07:00

Hey Everyone, can i first congratulate all those who have just loc'd up. Shout outs to N1 and Angel Locs... you have come along way ladies and the journey is just beginning....... Lovin your locs!!!

Back to the matter at hand. I've had a few requests to start styling espeacially from friends who know me and know i can almost turn my hand to anything creative but i have become stuck. The last time i went for retightening the majority had slipped right out except for the little balls at the end of each loc holding them together. (see one of the many balls below)

I'm not scared more like petrified. Like i said i can't really afford to keep on retightening and repairing a whole head. Anyho i did the braid out just to see what it would look like but Ladies and gents i didn't do anything more than that (trying to keep the hands outta the head!!!)

I plaited around 25 plaits to try and get a really kinky curl after i had washed and seperated, ensuring that the hair was damp.

Here are the results:

What a Difference

2008-09-29T23:06:00.000-07:00

I wasn't planning to post anything more this week but i washed my hair and i cannot believe the difference. Look i'm smiling.....i hardly ever take a pic with a smile on my face and here i am beaming. Trust me my locs have never looked so straight and individual after being washing.

My hair looks GREAT...WOW!!!!

Even Shan has been compilmenting it and i could tell he was beginning to have his doubts due to the amount of slippage i had been experiancing.

How nice to have a man who shares his opinons (sometimes too often and too brutal but nonetheless... its shared!

Just for those of you who don't know what i'm talking about here are a few pics for you to compare.

Below are a couple of pics after my first ever SL wash, Some serious curls going on huh?

What a massive difference (maybe i am exaggerating a tiny bit but i'm excited so leave me to it! lol) in the space of a matter of months...from the beginning ofAugust to the end of September

Meet my boy

2008-09-28T02:03:00.000-07:00

I thought it was about time that i posted afew pics of my son Nay Nay

I've Been Tagged Again by Angel Locs

2008-09-25T00:01:00.000-07:00

The rules are below in 'I've been Tagged' so here goes

I used to play compete in netball and badminton back in the day
I am my mums only child and have 5 brothers and sisters on my dads side, with me being the eldest
I am expecting my first niece or nephew in Feb 09
I love the taste of white chocolate
I used to model when i was younger (only catwalk....long legs)
My real name isn't Ezme, thats short for my grannys name Esmerelda my name is ............ oh what a shame thats all my taggs taken up. See Ya xx

3rd Retightening

2008-09-22T23:42:00.000-07:00

Hi there everyone, well i have been for my 3rd retightening and the credit crunch is starring to show its effects on me. I'm starting to wonder if i can SERIOUSLY afford to keep this up...of course i will find a way by hook or by crook, but living in one of the most expensive countries in the world is not helping matters. Especially if its gonna take the same amount of time it just has. 7 hrs and i really didn't think the slippage was as bad as the first time round costing £70 / $140.

Can i really continue this? .... at that price?.......every 4 weeks?

I'm gonna have to try my hardest or unfortunatley i'll have to go for an alternative and i really didn't wanna do that, Lets just hope that my locs lock quickly and i can start maintaining them myself!!!!

Or..... maybe the fact that it took so long is that Sabs was doing another clients hair the night before and was clearly tired when her hands were in mine. I did remind her that when you are tired you move alot slower whether your aware of it or not sooooo lets not try to take too long, but it still took the same length of time it did, but she did give me a small discount so can i really complain?.....

Yes...

at the end of the day it's a woman right!!!

So this time round that i took a good peek at her diary and made sure that there was no one before me. So far so good. She prefers doing hair on a Saturday but she was booked so i decided to go for theFriday, that way her Sat morning client can pay the extra....

Sorry love, but it won't be me this time round!

On the good side though she says that my hair is beginning to show signs of locking

Little balls at the end of each loc
Budding in the middle of some locs
Shrinkage
The tight natural ringlet curls are beginning to disappear so soon i should be able to put in curlers and do all those fancy styles i see everyone out there doing.

I've also gone out there now i bought some hair accesories. I didn't really see the need before...the hair was sooooo curly there was nothing i could do with it (all i could do is sit back and watch Euphoria's and the everyone else's pretty locks and styles and dream that soon i'll be able to do that!)

I'm loving my locks right now.. (apart from the uncoloured regrowth...will i really be able to last a whole year without adding colour to my roots, That alone is a test that i think i'm gonna fail!!). They are starting to become more versitile, obvioulsly once they have left the baby stage and begin to mature i will be trully satisfied but for now there really isn't any downsides to all this apart form the expense, but i'm gonna have to start looking at this as a treatment to myself...something like a reward for all the things that i have to do in a day. A special thank you to me!!!

"Thank You Ezme, for investing time, money, patience and love in the enhancement of beauty in your hair"

A mantra i'm gonna have to start chanting everytime i head to the ATM to pay Sabs!!

I've been TAGGED!!

2008-09-09T08:04:00.000-07:00

Oh my God I've been tagged twice, I will try to come up with 6 or as its twice does that mean 12 things that I haven't told you already. There are a few rules to the tag that I have to post so here goes!!!
Link to the person that tagged you. Euphoria and Nubian1

Post the rules on your blog
Share 6 non-important/ habits/ quirks about yourself
Tag 6 random people by posting links to their blogs

I hate my complexion...I wish i was really dark, insted of constantly being confused as mixed race.

I'm a step mum to two teenage girls 15 & 16, bearing in mind i am only 29 myself!!

Keeping on the same track i am a step granny as well

No he is not a cradle snatcher he just started out like most men tooooooo damn young and is 11 years my senior, We were friends for 5 years and have been together for 3/4 so 8/9yrs in total. And no he is not rich so i aint no gold digger neither!!

As a child I used to pick my nose and rub random peoples ear lobes for comfort (not at the same time or with the same fingers)

My biggest fear has always been boredom

And moths...yes moths....They have no direction what so eva

My second toe is longer than my big toe, which appartntly means that i will rule my man (proven to be true so far!!!)

I would love to have one more child pref a girl...he's not that keen!... I say TOUGH!!

People who have just met me seems to think that i am some scary, tough, strong character, people who know me thinks i should be on stage doing stand up comedy..... Lesson 1 Neva judge a book by its cover

Since a child i have had the gift of foresight, i can hold an object and tell you about the person who it belongs to, i've predicted the deaths of two friends to disturbing accuracy and i've seen spirits and angels, it always has and will scare the s**t out of me.

Without music i would be a manic depressive

New Style

2008-08-28T08:46:00.000-07:00

Well i thought that it was about time that i tried a few hairstyles...so here they are

They took a few seconds (yep.. i know it looks like it!, but it was quick and easy and that's all i need

Flat twist the front and cornrow the back
Take out the flat twists only at the centre (leave the sides twisted) so you end up with a mohawk.

Finally i'm fixed ....... YIPPEE!!

2008-08-25T00:41:00.000-07:00

Yes finally my hair looks so decent. I decoded to reach Sabs house at 9 on the dot because i thought i might be there due to some SERIOUS BITCHY SLIPPAGE. Luckily for me it only took five and a half hours ...... not bad!!
We had a good gossip about men, the good, the bad and the oh so ugly, you know the ones that God, children and dogs don't like. We had alot of ugly to talk about...maybe one day i'll share! Then again you probably have your own tales to tell about the wotless, nah work, nah look after dem pickney, degenerates of society ... i might have to start a blog so we can all complain. Sabs was going through some drama and it made be reflect on crap men that i have had the lack of pleasure of.. Ok lets get back to the point, So it took less time than i thought but it was a lot more uncomfortable, and its still sore today. It didn't hurt as such, i think the lack of me combing and manipulating my hair just made my scalp more tender, but at least its done and i don't favor a scarecrow no mo'. Check out the comparison below and above and you'll see what im sayin.

2008-08-22T09:38:00.000-07:00

First Retightening Tomorrow (Slippage is a b***h!!)

2008-08-22T09:10:00.000-07:00

Like the title says it is my first retightening tomorrow and bwoy do i need it. I'm not gonna say anymore than that....just check out the pictures below and you can definatley see what i'm talking about. SLIPPAGE IS A B&%$H!!!!

Pride

2008-08-16T07:53:00.000-07:00

As i child growing up in the 80's and watching the Olympics i always used to ask my dad where were the Jamaican athletes. There were the Carl Lewis's, the Ben Jonson's, Linford Christie but where were we???

My dad always used to say 'One day there will be a Jamaican athlete who will run faster than anyone, he will be the fastest in the WORLD!!'

2008 twenty plus years later and here he is.....I am sooooooPROUD!!

2008-08-08T00:09:00.000-07:00

It Wasn't Bad After All (the first wash)

2008-08-07T08:04:00.000-07:00

Well, all that fuss over the SL shampoo and you know what ..... it actually agrees with my hair but i can still relate to what everyone else has been saying.

I was so apprehensive doing it though. I plaited it up into sections, banded the ends and poured over the water. One thing i did notice different from all the other blogs is that my TC told me to pat the shampoo into my head instead of rubbing it in a circular motions all in the same direction... maybe its because my hair is soft and silky (baby hair). Anyho that shampoo stripped my hair from all traces of oil and that is great (for me) as my hair oils up pretty well by itself and i've never suffered from dry scalp in fact, as i think of it, i don't think apart from when i was a child and my mum used to do my hair i've ever greased my scalp..... just my hair!, good thing, bad thing, i'm not to sure but it worked for me!

I'm not a trained hairdresser and i dont pretend to be but i do suggest that if you suffer from dry scalp, an irritable scalp or dry breakable hair that you might want to invest in a backup shampoo..... JUST IN CASE. However if your hair matches the same description as mine : soft, silky, no dry scalp (baby hair) then SL shampoo is all good.

So just to sumarise it up for all of you....if you want your hair to lock quickly use the SL shampoo or a shampoo that contains sea salt or anything that dehydrates the hair; if you want your hair to shine, look healthy, not feel like velcro and you have the patience of waiting for your hair to lock use an alternative.

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SLIPPAGE

WELL, I've had so much of it ... majority of the front, the sides at the front and 2 totally came out at the back, but not the back hairline (give thanks for small mercies) However my hair does look like i am transitioning as the roots are still SL'd but the ends APPEARS to be loose. Roll on August 23rd as that is the day of my first retightening and i've got a feeling that i will be there longer than 6 hours!!

Just as i finished writing that last sentence Shan flung my head forward and says

'Oh, you do know that a couple have come out'

'Yes babe i do'

'What by your neck piece'

'WHAT!!, WHERE??'

'Here' he says guiding my hand to the nape of my neck

'Oh s***!, well thats just friggin great innit. CHA!!'

What I Should Have Asked!!

2008-08-04T03:12:00.001-07:00

I am such a typical impulsive Aries that there are questions that i should have asked my tc before, during or after the process of having these SL's installed.....maybe someone out there can give me some answers or suggestions

With all this spraying of water won't my hair start to smell damp?....
Or get mouldy?
How long do have to keep spraying H20 and isn't there an alternative?
Can i go swimming? will the chlorine damage the hair? or should i wait till they mature?
Can i be taught how to at least upkeep the front where most of slippage is?
How soon should i wash my hair noting the serious slippage?
I've heard bad reviews on the SL shampoo, what's an alternative?
Does anyone know where to get soft spikes or an alternative from in the UK?

1st Week Pics

2008-08-03T05:24:00.000-07:00

1st Week

2008-08-03T05:01:00.000-07:00

Its been a week since i've had my SL's put in. Have i noticed anything? Yep. My hair seems a bit thicker and it's itching like crazy. So i sprayed it with some nettle spray to tame the itch but I'm unsure whether to wash it or leave it for another week. Also i'm starting to doubt the Sisterlocks shampoo, I've read so many blogs about it and alot of them seems to be negative, maybe i should invest in a back up just in case. What do you recommend?? Anyway take a look at the pics and see if you notice any differences.

On The Path TO Newbieism

2008-08-01T00:34:00.000-07:00

Hello there again and i can only apologise for the delay. Now let me tell u my experiance of getting these babies on my head. Now do you remember that i told you i had a trainee putting in these SL's? (if not then u have skipped some haven't u?.....naughty....got to the bottom of this page and read it ALL). Well it took Sabrina 3 days. 11 hours on Friday, 10 hours on Saturday and 5 hours on Sunday which makes it 26 hours in total. That's why it has taken me so long to pop up and show u anything, you see my bum refused to sit down, lay down...yes, stand up...yes but this backside was on strike everytime i mentioned the computer. Sorry!!

DAY 1

I left Luton to catch the 0800 train and arrived at my destination just on time for my 0930 appointment. I came prepared, a little Terrry McMillian book that i had started to read on the train. I stopped of in Asda and stocked up on pasta salads and water as this was one of those rare boiling and humid British summer days and around 9 Dvds... Shottas, 500 years, Dancehall Queen and some Blue Mountain plays you know just light comic entertainment, If it had been something more sinister i might have tried new forms of execution....you'd be amazed the amount of b.s that can go through your mind when your just sitting there!!!

Sabrina was ready and waiting and i planted my once round and pert bum onto the 'hair chair' in the living room, ran my hands along the natural kinks of my hair just for memories sake and of she went, knitting, crocheting whatever it was she was doing with that hook. By the end of the day the middle and back were complete and to be truthfull i didn't like it yet!!. She assured me that it would look nice i had great textured hair that would give me pretty locks and that the appearance of scalp was minimal...

i didn't care.

I hate to see things half done. Anyway i popped on the head scarf and made my way to a family members house where i had pitched up a tent for the weekend. Now my aunt loved it. She's been doing hair for years but had never heard of sisterlocks. Hearing encouraging words from someone who hadn't just taken £275 seemed alot reassuring to me...i wonder why!

DAY 2

Arrived at Sabrinas' for 10 and off she went making those hands busy, today it was the front and dreaded hairline. We both concluded that this is where if not all then most of the slippage would be and so far we have been prove right (see pics). We had a good ol' natter about everything from personal to public and i soon forgot that i was having my hair done. It was like catching up with a long time friend....who i had just given £275 to do my hair (sounds like i've got an issue with the price huh?)

DAY 3

I was in and out the door relatively quickly. She only had the sides to do and i think it took so long because once again our mouths were running a mile a minute. But u see that's what i like. I have never enjoyed the salon feeling ( a load a people up in ur business and everyone elses) but sitting in a house with someone sooooo nice and talkative brings an extra something special to the whole experiance. I have to come to the conclusion that i came off lightly (you say lightly with what??) The price peeps the price. I totally appreciate the compromise we had to make to acheive this style. You see Sabs has a 3 yr old daughter that she didn't get to spend much time with over that weekend.... just like me and my son, plus in total we had about 30 mins in breaks, it was non stop hard work on her part!! Maybe she should add some zeros to the price it's not like she doesn't deserve it...as long as she knows i wouldn't be paying for it!!!

Anyway all done and did i like it........

...........NO.

I'm being honest i flung that headscarf on my head said my goodbyes and left

Do i like it 3 days later........

......NO......

........I LOVE IT!!!!

The problem was it was so fine on my head i looked like a female version of pin head!!

She did spray it lightly with water but it just needed time. Plus i am soooo happy i gave my head that 2 tone colour, the effect looks hot!!. I can almost guarntee that its only gonna get better as the days progress into weeks, months and years

So what are you waiting for huh?????

Here is a little preperation advice

Bring a comfortable pillow to sit on

Sit on your bum not your tail bone....DO NOT SLOUCH!!

Have a big breakfast to keep you going

Talking helps the time fly by if not...

...Bring a book that you are just starting to read (it'll be finished by the time your hair is!)

Wear comfortable shoes....just trust me on that one!!

Make sure you have someone to give you a good back rub...

...neck rub

...shoulder rub

...wherever else is hurting rub

Take the next day off...you will not believe how exhausting sitting can be

You may not like it at first but give it a day or two and you will LOVE IT!!

Officially a Newbie

2008-08-01T00:08:00.000-07:00

Blindness

2008-07-31T08:01:00.001-07:00

You know what on Tuesday i decided to take my son to the Natural History and Science Museums and i saw around 3 women with what appears to look like sisterlocks. Then today i decided since its not overly sunny or humid to take my son to the park and lo and behold there was yet another woman with sisterlocks and all of these woman appeared to be in the newbie stage. Then i had to fly to the shops and there was a woman at the bus stop... yes you guessed it sisterlocks and she said she has had them for the last 6 years. I wish my camera phone was working cos them locks were delicious, luscious, thick and devine. The weird thing is i have passed both women (park and bus stop) on numerous occasions and have never taken any notice on the hairstyles they were rocking .... maybe they were being drowned out by the weave parade!! But isn't that strange? ... Here i am thinking that i am getting something relatively new to the U.K and bwoy here i am.... late! Now i don't know what's happening am i suddenly becoming aware of people with locks....Yes. I think that is what having a new hairstyle/lifestyle does, suddenly the blinkers are off and your noticing everything in everybody. Weird!

The Last Day

2008-07-24T10:43:00.000-07:00

As you can see i love crazy colours...blonde at the front and red at the back!!!

Now tomorrow is D- Day and i can't wait. I've washed my hair, done another circle of all the blogs just to make sure i'm doing the right thing....and yes i am.

I am kinda nervous because i do have soft hair and alot of it is quite straight. I just hope that it thickens up and doesn't break

The Mcanns

2008-07-24T04:49:00.000-07:00

Now i'm coming of the subject for a minute but i want to ask you the joe public something. Now i know that it must be devasting for these parents to lose their child. A whole year has passed and we don't know if the child is dead or alive HOWEVER don't you feel that there needs to be some sort of prosecution to these parents. All the mothers.... well actually fathers...nah ...all the people with common sense would u really leave your 3year old with a set of twins at 2yrs of age alone in a strange country, strange hotel room and tek yourself and your partner out to dinner??? I can hear the cry HELL NO!! Now personally i feel that they should be charged for neglect. If they were doing their job as responsible parents that child would be safe now.
More to the point if it was a family on a low wage income or on benefits or an ethnic minority we all know not only would they not be getting as much supportive press attention, backing from millionaires and countless amount of media time but there arses would be villified and on remand all now for some sort of child neglect. Ultimately they have paid a dear price for there lack of foresight and no prison sentence would ever feel satisfactory in their eyes but come on..something needs to be done.

5 days to go!!

2008-07-21T05:15:00.000-07:00

I have 5 days to go and i cannot contain myself. I used to read everybodies blog and hear the excitement bouncing of the page, and i will be honest, the words 'extra' and ' get a grip of yourself' did slip out of my mouth a few times, but now i'm here feeling the same way you all did...so....... I'm Sorry!! I now know what all the excitement was all about...(and it aint the money i'm about to spend!!). Thanks for the comment of encouragement Shoshanna it was well needed.

Anxious or Nervous

2008-07-16T02:28:00.000-07:00

Another short look

As the time is steadily approaching i am beginnig to feel the nerves. This is not the first time i have attempted to put locks in my head and i am hoping its the last. Back in the mid - late nineties i tried the traditional locks and even took myself to a locticians shop to have them done.

I had to wash it and leave it for 2 days before the appointment and then they palmed rolled the hair and saturated it in oil. Now, my hair loves oil, it goes crazy just at the whisper of the word because it can go all soft, curly and unravel from any style you tried to put it in, so that was £50 down the drain, but did i learn NO, i went back and tried again and .....well you guessed it!!. My next trick was just to leave it and let it lock and then split the hair so i'll have the individual locks. Now i have had the beautiful experiance of giving birth, enduring a drug free labour in my home, i have had an ectopic pregnancy and my fallopian tube rupture inside of me and NOTHING and i mean N.O.T.H.I.N.G compared to the pain of trying to split locks, so out came the clippers and i shaved that mess off. So i am concerned that it wont work eventhough i know it will, I'm just anxious or nervous.

I've also been combing my hair more and feeling its texture as i know once them locks are in those days will be done!! Its not like i've ever enjoyed playing in my hair its just that i know that its something i won't be able to do AGAIN!

However saying all of that i still cannot wait till next friday (nor can Trevor, i think i'm starting to get on his nerves " mi cyan wait fi friday and dem dyam brudderlocs trus mi!!").

Conception of Sisterlocks

2008-07-09T08:43:00.000-07:00

Hi You

Welcome to my blog.

This is my first time of doing this madness so pls be patient with me. Anyway, i became inspired to do this when i decided to research the words 'dreads' and 'sisterlocks' as i needed a change from the mundane hairstyle that i have gotten used to.

My hair has been natural for the past 12 years and i have always worn it short..DAMN it looked good but now its time for a change...well i think so!!!!

Since giving birth to my son i feel that i now need to look more yummy rather than a street hustler!!. I'm not saying that short hair on a woman makes you look like a haggler but it did on me sometimes.... (well more like a crack head, and i've got the pics to prove it).
Bwoy i knew i had a big forehead but this photo caught all its glory (i'm sure a likkle length cant be too bad can it????)

Its time for the yummy mummy stage of my life.

My next move after the short hair was the WEAVE.
Now, i'm a weave virgin and only had it put it for my sons' naming ceremony and trust me i pulled that bitch out the next day. Ladies, how do you do it, summer, winter, spring, autumn i see these sisters rocking these big ol tings on their head, some look good but many don't... tracks on show, thred dangling down and all dat plus..... WE all know they aint real...and i'm too real to be so fake, ( or maybe i'm just jealous that they itch the hell outta my scalp, make me sweat like i'm in J.A and are too damn tight...who needs a face lift....get a weave)

It covered up that piece of forehead though....right?

Next came the twists, now i put these babies in myself as i am of creative mind i am of creative hands. I am the black girl who the girls came too every week to get their hair did, whether it be extensions, weaves, perm (relaxed or curly) ,trim etc. So when i cant be bothered to find someone to do it i do it for myself. These took 2 days to do in between nappy changes, feeding, times, bath times, putting him to sleep time and my time.

People thought it looked good. What do u reckon??

Any ho i opted for the sisterlock option and have gone for the 1st consultation. Sabrina was really great, she sat me down as soon as i walked in , showed me the sisterlock video...
... 'WORD TO THE WISE' Make sure you do your research before you have to watch that video! Look at images of sisterlocks on all sites that you can find... The video is from the early 90's and the styles and the people representing the styles are all of the more mature genre, if you are young and trendy then this vid can really put you off...it's just out of date. Before i blinked my eye good she was finished, 8 sample locks.
A sample loc is kinda fine...note to self, it will thicken.......patience girl........PATIENCE!!

Wow it went real quick and so we made our lock installation date for 4 weeks from there. Roll on 25/26 July. Did i mention that Sabrina is a trainee consultant, i tried to find a certified consultant but half of them aint doing it no more and the other half have queues as long as my body length so i opted for what turned out to be the cheaper verson, £350 certified, £250 trainee and as my hair length varies between 4"- 6" its £275. After the first wash about 4 sample locks disappered from my hair.... ( so we wont be using that pattern will we!!) I've still got a couple of weeks to go and i look forward to popping up from time to time and sharing my progress with you. We all know what dreads are but if u wanna know what the beauty in sisterlocks are check out there official site and research it from there. U won't be disappointed.

http://www.sisterlocks.com/